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How can I claim that he abused me if I have no proof?

When most people hear that their loved one is in an abusive relationship, they think disconnection is as comfortable as living in the home. However, sometimes you have too much invested in your home and your businesses that living is not as easy. During such times, you need to prove that there has been abused. In some abusive relationships, especially where there is emotional abuse, there is no proof to show. How do you prove there has been abused? This article will send more light on the best ways to determine there has been abused in a relationship.


Statistics show that more than a third of domestic violence victims cannot provide evidence. This evidence is needed to obtain legal aid. Without the support of a good lawyer, victims have a difficult time leaving abusive partners and are exposed to intimidation and confrontations. How do you get the proof you need?


Get a therapist


The first step to help you get the evidence you need is to get a credible therapist. A therapist will help you articulate your struggles before the court. They will be a neutral third party who support a victim will tell their story in a way that will compel a jury and the judge to make a favorable ruling.


Often, emotional abuse is alleged. It is always one person’s word against another’s. Once you start seeing signs of damage, document it. Have a journal that is accurate with dates and times. You also have to save the abuser’s texts, emails and sometimes record those phone calls.


Your doctor or therapist will also testify about the signs of abuse that they noticed during your sessions. These symptoms may include, weight loss and weight gain, depression, and heart disease. You can also speak to your doctor about the abuse and what you have been experiencing. The doctor will testify accordingly.


Witness testimonies


Testimonies from witnesses are potent forms of proof especially in the case of nonphysical abuse. There is always an excellent chance that people will hear your spouse yelling or verbally berating you. Such a person can testify accordingly. The court always prefers people who saw an incidence with their own eyes although they will still allow testimonies from individuals who found out the incident from someone else. There are three kinds of eyewitnesses permitted to testify in court:




These are not involved in the incidences. However, they heard and saw everything with their own eyes. If the police are required at this time, they will gather information from these witnesses, and prosecution can interview the witness on behalf of the victim.


Alleged victim:


This is the role you will play in the case. These are technically the witnesses to the incidents. The subpoena rule requires a court order to provide testimony during the court proceedings. However, you do not have to testify if you do not want to.


Officers at the scene


These are often the first responders to the scene. They also have the chance to testify as witnesses. The police often relate their observations to the victims’ statements and the evidence at the time of the call.


In many cases, the victim’s testimony is critical. It also needs to align with the victim’s testimony.


Other than the evidence, you must make sure that you choose your lawyer wisely. Here are a couple of factors to consider ensuring that you have selected the right lawyer for your domestic violence case.


1. Get references


The simplest way to sieve through the grain and the chuff is to get some people referred to you. You may not know any lawyers because before this you never had a reason to deal with them. If this is the case, get friends, other lawyers, directories and family to recommend lawyers they know who are great at their job and who will tell you how to go about your case.


2. Look for specialization


Once you have your list of potential candidates, it is time to meet all of them and begin cancelling out those who are best for you. Try and narrow the list down to those who made you feel comfortable. The first thing to look at is those who deal with divorce cases only. If the lawyer is not specialized in this field, chances are they may not have represented enough people to handle changes in the case and other difficulties that may occur. In fact, some may serve violence cases on the side which is not a good thing for you because while they may have been lawyers for a long time, they still do not have enough experience in this field. So look for a lawyer who only deals with these types of cases.


3. Experience


When it comes to law, like with many other professions, the experience is everything. But do not look for experience regarding years, look for It concerning cases worn. Why? A lawyer may have been in the divorce cases field and may have had experience of over 20 years. However looking at it closely, they may have only won 6 or seven cases and lost dozens. This will not give you confidence that yours will be amongst those earned. Another may have been in the field for only six years and has won all the cases they have represented. The latter candidate gives you more confidence.

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