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Can I prevent him from converting the separation into a divorce?

Several spouses have ignored the well-intentional alarms of discontent that is raised by their partners for many years. The complaints sound and look as if they might not end up causing divorce in the beginning. Everything instantly begins to shake when their spouse files for a divorce all over sudden or moves out and wants to end the marriage. What happens when one spouse announces that they want to let go and dissolve the marriage while the other spouse disagrees with the move? Is there a way or any means to stop a separation from culminating into a divorce during those breaking points?

You are not entitled to coerce anyone into action
Law protects the rights and freedoms of your partner once they file for divorce. Marriage is a mutual decision. You have no legal rights to force him or her to take any course of action. What is needed to resolve any issues is for both of you to have mutual respect for each other, engage in open communication, and be willing to listen to your differences as the best way to agree on issues of major concern. The situation goes out of hand and everyone involved would find it difficult to resolve any arising issue when these channels are apparently overlooked or closed.

Mediation and counseling
Engaging in open discussion between the two of you would not work if your spouse has set his/her mind to filing a divorce. Deep-rooted emotions will have set in, and this requires a third to provide a middle ground. You will need to look for a professional third party who can either be a lawyer or a social worker to help you to comprehend the pros and cons of divorce. You will need the approval of a judge to seek mediation or counseling if the case has already been filed in court.

It is important to note that your primary goal is not to save the marriage when you seek mediation. Your goal is to determine whether the entire divorce journey is the best option for both of you. Couples may discover that their differences can easily be resolved with a brief intervention in some instances while others would find it tenable to end their marriage. Meditation and the involvement of the third party’s point of view may assist the two of you to see things differently for once.

Objecting the divorce
You have legal permission to argue against the case if your spouse still intend to proceed with divorce after failing to reconcile through mediation and counseling and you still object the move. You will contest in court through your lawyer by submitting the grounds upon which you are exerting this right. This does not mean the court will stop the divorce. It is for the purpose of finding out the legitimacy of your grounds for contesting.

Accepting the terms of divorce
You need to come to terms with the situation and accept that remaining married is not a viable option after you have finally exhausted the available channels to resolve your differences with your spouse. You will need to understand that the two of you have pronounced differences that are difficult to resolve. You will not have any other option left but to accept and move on.